Sometimes I honestly can't believe how much time has passed. How much things have changed. I travel almost every weekend and when I do I listen to my iPod. Playlists. I have a Reminds Me of People playlist, a Playlist of My Life, a Macey Songs playlist, a Dancing playlist, NAT playlist, CDs from people playlists, and a few shorter ones. I sit and I listen and sometimes I like to remind myself of all that has come before this, now. I need to remember how I got here. I need to remember what is important and why. It hurts to think about the people who have walked out of my life, the people who have died (especially my mom and Mary), and the people who have ruined me. It hurts to think about when someone has come into my life and left a mark that isn't a good one. But I just have to remember how much of my heart is filled with the marks of those who have made life worth living. Seth. Kristen and Jessica. My parents. Naomi. Nicole. The rest of my family. Emma. Desiree. Christine. Krista. Katie. Jon. Even some of the people who left without saying goodbye but never hurt me, like Benny in middle school, or Dorn, or Lindsay, or Krystal, or Ashley, or Ericka. Not every story is a sad one. I've learned to forgive many people. Even the ones who have recently walked out of my life.
It's been hard this year, though. I've gotten a little lost and I'm only admitting it because it's really late and I'm awake and tired. I'm feeling unsafe and unsteady. I really can't sleep, can't eat. It hurts my heart to wake up in the morning sometimes. I don't know if I'm going to make it at times. I'm really homesick more than I should be. I just want to be somewhere safe and comfortable and familiar with people who are the same. It's tiring. I've both regressed and moved forward. I joined a support group and meet with a counselor in the hopes that these things can help me work with what I've got inside me, but I don't know if they can. After the first group meeting, I cried because one of the members was at least 80 years old. It hurt me to see someone that age going through how I feel now--alone. I wonder if she is there for past or recent reasons and I think about myself being that age, and that lonely, and feeling that way, and I don't want to imagine it. I can barely imagine a few days spent without the company of people I trust right now, never mind years. I get scared at the prospect of sleeping alone. Walking alone. Eating alone. Waking up alone. I feel almost incapable of being alone with just my thoughts or my dreams for any length of time.
I don't know what to do. I'm tempted to just give up. Not on life, never on life, but on anything that can aggravate this sleeplessness further. People right now are thinking of what to do with their lives. Whether grad school is a good idea. How fun it will be to be friends as we age. And I'm thinking of ways to sleep through the night safely and soundly without waking up with tears in my eyes or shaking from fear. I want my dreams back. I want myself back. I'm trying, everyone knows I'm trying. This Fall has been good for me. A lot of closeness and trust. I let a few more people in and showed them the most frightening part of me and they still wanted to be with me just as they had last year. It makes me feel a sense of comfort and home in a place where it had been building but not just yet cemented, and I needed that, because all of the old places are so far away. I've also been working on me, trying to figure out what I need, whether it's to burn and bury the past or to sit across from it and talk to it face to face. I've been doing a little of both and I don't know what direction my future will take. I hate to say that my entire life depends on one event, and one person, but that is the way for many people. It makes me wish that my mom was here to give me the personal advice I know she would have.
1. Who would you like to see right now?
Anyone who knows me well.
2. Favorite quote:
"Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."
3. Age: 19
4. Top five turn ons:
1. Someone who knows me and loves me
2. Nerdiness
3. Oxford shirts
4. Sharp teeth
5. Sexy dancing
5. Top Five turn offs:
1. Drugs
2. Being a bro
3. Light green eyes
4. Dirty/bad looking hair
5. Bad eyebrows (this should be number one!)
6. Last movie you watched?
Coraline (Every time they say buttons...)
7. Top 10 tv shows:
No order!
1. Gilmore Girls
2. Dexter
3. Castle
4. Pretty Little Liars
5. Shameless
6. The Big Bang Theory
7. Raising Hope
8. Shameless
9. TrueBlood
10. South of Nowhere
8. Ever had alcohol?
Yes.
9. Ever taken drugs?
Hardly
10. Where would you like to live?
MA
11. Story of my last kiss?
The last kiss was Seth saying goodbye for the weekend
12. Are you missing someone right now?
Yes. Everyone who isn't with me who I care about.
13. A fact about the person you like:
The reason I really started to like her in the beginning was because she told me she wrote a book. I read her words and fell in love with them.
14. Ten facts about yourself:
1. I love taking photos with people
2. Writing is the one thing other than people in my life that I genuinely need (sans water/air/food/etc)
3. I only hate four people who have been alive to this day, and one of them is dead
4. I often wear rainbow/tutus/colorful socks
5. My favorite months are October, December, March and July and if I could make a season out of them I would
6. I'm allergic to eggs
7. I don't eat any meat besides chicken
8. I was born without a sense of smell
9. I often have a bad feeling that something will happen shortly before it does
10. I came out on Facebook both times that I had a "big" coming out
15. Biggest regret:
The moment I said hello and introduced myself
16. Biggest regret while drunk:
151 Rum also known as The Julia Night (no further explanation needed)
17. A wish
That I had never made this decision
18. Something you wish you didn't have to lie about:
My gender
19. Dream date
For me this is complicated.... Waking up at sunrise for a walk on the beach, followed by a long walk, with something fun and interactive like Lazer Tag thrown in, then a dinner date with sushi and ice cream, alcoholic beverages, and a night back at the beach where we fall asleep....and photos taken throughout the day at all parts of the date
20. If you could change one thing in your life what would it be?
If I'm being selfish, I would wish that I had understand that something was considered abusive at the time that it happened originally. But to be honest, I would likely not do this. I would wish for a specific person who is alive today to regain full ability to function at their physical age level.
21. Your best kiss?
I can't choose one, but they were all with Seth
22. Something you don't like:
Being poked
23. Someone you don't like:
There are four people that I've ever hated, and many that I just don't really like.
24. Best friend:
ML, KC, JG, ES, DC, CC, KB, JM, KG, NM, NKB